Beginner’s Ball: Fear of Falling

hidingFear is an emotional response to threats and danger. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of pain. Psychologists John B. Watson, Robert Plutchik, and Paul Ekman have suggested that fear is one of a small set of basic or innate emotions. This set also includes such emotions as joy, sadness, and anger. Fear should be distinguished from the related emotional state of anxiety, which typically occurs without any external threat. Additionally, fear is related to the specific behaviors of escape and avoidance, whereas anxiety is the result of threats which are perceived to be uncontrollable or unavoidable. Worth noting is that fear always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable.

New things are often scary.

We are afraid to venture from our safe places, afraid to fall, afraid to fail, and in some cases, afraid to succeed.  Our reaction to that fear, whether it’s fight or flight, in a lot of ways stems from our upbringing.  I come from a family that fostered a habit of exploration, at least a little bit.  While no one crouched beside me, encouraging my six year old self to go explore, no one discouraged me either.  I spent my youth scaling trees, exploring random paths, and otherwise going places that in retrospect I’m certain would have given my mom fits.

I don’t climb trees any more.  If there’s one thing growing up has taught me is a healthy respect for gravity.  But I do explore random paths and I’m certain that my mom would at least raise an eyebrow at the things I do.

But, even scarier than trees and unknown paths are the depths of our imagination.  And sharing what our imagination creates can be downright paralyzing.  I didn’t originally plan to do my Beginner’s Ball post on fear.  I actually had planned to delve into perception a bit more.  But lately it seems I hear the words “fear”, “frightened”, and “scared” from all quarters.  And on other fronts, I’ve encountered the dark specters my own mind can conjure recently, and that, too, has seen me whisper, “I’m scared.”

Being an artist of any sort is a daunting prospect.  Of course, we’re specifically discussing being a writer.  And as such, pen name or no, you have to build a persona that has thick skin to deal with critics, you have to let rejections roll off your back, and you have brave the waters again and again.  I’m so new to this process that I haven’t had those really sink in yet.  I’m sharing my writing, but haven’t been through the submission and rejection process yet.  I will, and soon, though, I’m sure.

So.  We’re all afraid of falling.  What do you do to conquer that?  How do you work through the fears that plague the writing process?  Do you find yourself afraid to write something in particular?  A subject, theme, specific story lingering in the back of your mind?  How do you brave them, the trials your own mind sets before you?  If something specific haunts you, or has haunted you, have you come up with a plan of attack, or, if successful, how did you do it?


Gearing up

I’m here, really I am!

I’ve been gearing up, the last few weeks, and soon things are going to be happening so quickly I won’t know how I keep up, I’m sure.  I feel like a sprinter.  I’ve been stretching, warming up, preparing for that burst of energy.  Now, I feel all coiled up, ready to let loose.  So stay tune, you wouldn’t want to miss it!

This Sunday is my turn to host the Spicy Summer Sundays Blog Tour.  We’re be spending some time on thyme, though be sure to check in, as the after party is where all the fun stuff happens. 

And some time in the near future I will be hosting The Beginner’s Ball.  Started by Erobintica, Marina St. Clare and Helia Brookes, this traveling discussion has touched on all manner of subjects, from pen names, to sharing our work, to what we write about and why.  I haven’t quite figured out what my topic will initially focus on yet, but I am looking forward to hosting the party.


On other fronts, I’m getting organized.  My day planner is full of submission deadlines that I would love to write pieces for.  I’ve already set an expectation that I will write something for every challenge Alison Tyler puts forth.  I’ve told my husband, and so far I’ve been tackling everything.  The process is teaching me to write under pressure, as well as write outside my comfort zone.  It’s also getting both of us used to the fact that I need to write regularly.  I get some nice feedback too, which is always helpful!  Stay tuned for a post tomorrow highlighting my recent attempts.  Some have gone better than others, but I think I’m gaining confidence and developing my skill.  Hopefully.

So, that’s that.  Summer’s a busy time for us, but I’m trying to set time aside to write when I can.  Having a day job takes up a good portion of my life, so I can’t be as productive as I would otherwise like to be.  But I am learning to work around that.  One the up side, Mr. Greyson has been quite eager to aid my research, and we have been doing quite a bit of that!

The Beginner’s Ball Continues…

Strap, lace, slip or whathave you your dancing shoes on and take yourself over the Erobintica’s for the latest Beginner’s Ball.  This edition discusses whether writing erotica(and porn) simply contributes to the problem(that referring to the “problem of pornography).  So, do you believe there is one?  If so, what’s the cause?  does erotica contribute? 

Go, share your thoughts!  And stay tuned, for the Beginner’s Ball will make a stop here at Scarett Greyson’s in the near future!  Aren’t you curious already what else we might talk about?

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